Violet

I most often describe my work as that of a courtesan. I have written and discussed elsewhere the class and privilege implications of that word, but for me, it holds enough of what I am looking to convey about the experience of my business and practice as a professional in the sex industry. My role in a client’s life is that of a confidante, sex educator, co-explorer on erotic fetish adventures and cherished friend.I started in this industry over 2 years ago as an agency escort in London, but I quickly found that quickie encounters with anonymous bodies didn’t fulfil me professionally; I had a great sex life outside of the work and was looking for more. I spent 18 months building a small list of delighted clients for whom my skill in the bedroom (although very satisfying) came second to my integrity and professionalism as a courtesan. I remember their birthdays and ask after their offsprings’ progress at music lessons. We discuss politics, art, culture. I encourage their interests and they stimulate and engage me on the subjects dearest to my heart too.I discuss my own sexuality and desires openly. Many clients trust me implicitly to co-facilitate the threesome of their dreams, as they know I am genuinely bisexual, and the experience will be as enjoyable for me as for them. Many couples invite me into their bedrooms as a trusted guest in their relationships. Together we can explore bisexuality, or sometimes I bring a fresh pair of eyes to a couple who had forgotten how beautiful their relationship really was…I have a close network of colleagues, and I refer clients on to other practitioners, for various reasons but often for extreme BDSM skills that I don’t have, or to pursue interests that we don’t share. That said, I have spent time training in various BDSM disciplines, with people I consider industry specialists. I am also thrilled to receive referrals from people I respect within the industry; I feel it’s a strong expression of the faith of my peers in me as a provider.I have also organised and led various workshops and events, broadly on sex-positive or sexuality-based themes, including work on safer sex and sex worker rights.